Leelah alcorn was sent to reparative/conversion therapy and I’m going to state again that this practice is only outlawed in three states, we need to push for it to be outlawed across the United States right now, this is what we should be fighting for, we can’t spare any more lives, we can’t allow the torture of any more children
conversion therapy is horrific and should be banned, but so much of leelah’s suffering can be directly attributed to her parents. i assume they would still have abused her regardless if they could put her through therapy. transmisogyny is so, so much more pervasive than this.
i am deeply uncomfortable with cis people (and anyone who isn’t a trans woman) immediately using this girl’s suicide to advocate for a legislative solution that would benefit all lgbtq+ people. it reads as vulturistic. she is not your dead to collect on.
let trans women grieve, let trans women decide how to move forward. boost our words, don’t just use her death to advocate for a solution that you would assume benefits us (and uncoincidentally, you as well) without challenging the cultural transmisogyny we’re all immersed in.
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it’s worth noting that it’s not just her parents that are at fault. focussing just on that is doing a disservice to her because she pretty clearly laid out the fact that society’s attitude towards us creates such a horrible self-image and a horrible future -
"i’m never going to transition successfully"
"i’m never going to be happy with the way i look or sound"
"i’m never going to have enough love to satisfy me"
"i’m never going to be happy"
"Either I live the rest of my life as a lonely man who wishes he were a woman or I live my life as a lonelier woman who hates herself. There’s no winning. There’s no way out."
all massive indicators of the huge influence transmisogyny has on us and our self worth and our identities and health. yes, her parental abuse was a huge factor but it wasn’t the only one, and ignoring the cultural transmisogyny we live in and through is going to do nothing to challenge it.


